I don't see the issue as using food as a punishment. The child is still being allowed to have lunch. There seems to be too much coddling of children when it comes to disipline. Don't say the word "No" because junior won't feel good about himself. Kids, at a far too young age, are allowed to make choices that are beyond their maturity level. What happened to the days when it was little Susie's birthday only little Susie received a birthday gift. Now all siblings receive a gift so they don't feel left out. Dave, I felt your statement about prison food may have been a bit to the extreme,however maybe not too far from the truth. I see acting out by young adults because society doesn't always do what will make them feel good about themselves. I also see the mental health field needing more workers in the future, because little Jimmy didn't get a gift too when sister Susie celebrated a birthday.
No generation had perfect parenting skills, however I feel that the skill of firm disipline and parents making decisions for their children until the time is right is a thing of the past. Only for now I hope.
Life is too short for drama & petty things!
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