One person who needed her right to life followed was Terry Schaivo. I have never forgotten that case. I had my babies later in life and despite all the dire predictions about them both turned out perfectly normal and very healthy. In fact, the older one is a great candidate for graduate school--even though she started out life not breathing and everyone kept telling me until they were BLUE in the face that she had "ADHD". That can't be true because she sleeps very well, concentrates on all types of tasks and does most things BETTER THAN AVERaGE, and is hard to get out of bed early on the weekend!
The other one doesn't want to grow up and I hear about it ALL the time, but he's not even in kindergarten yet. Most of the advice I get from people about my "abnormal" children I get from people under the age of 30, especially 17-23 year olds who "heard from the experts" (TV or their guidance counselors), people who don't have any at all, who have been divorced several times or NEVER married and had kids out of wedlock, and day care workers who've never even gotten a real four year college degree. Trust me, if I hear something from a pediatrician or a real child psychologist or even a grandmother with a great track record of raising young 'uns, I will LISTEN, but until then, I just take it with a grain of salt and go back to what my grandmothers said, and read the PROPER books.
By the way, if you are clueless about kids, which includes most of the silly young folks that are into the latest fads regarding kids, try an old Penelope Leach book and you can't go wrong. THere are some really ones by real pediatricians too and real child psychologists and even a few of aged parents who have done a good job of tackling in their newsletters some of the more common problems. Stay away from anything that sounds like a weird diet you've never heard of before, pushes drugs to increase tolerable behavior or "increase concentration" ability or alter moods in children, is written by someone with little or no actual experience with children (if they are daycare workers, make certain they are people that actually ran a daycare, not just "babysat" a little or worked for one in high school), or sounds anything like "never discipline your kids" or "speak only positive words" or encourages you to having "blessing" parties for your children or suggests really weird punishments that sound odd or even abusive or totally worthless. Not every kid is the same. Mine responded very positively to very different forms of discipline and different forms of child rearing and rewards. (The only consistent thing with kids is CONSISTENCY, without CONSISTENCY and their understanding of what you expect of your kids NOTHING WORKS). Most young parents I know mess up because they don't understand things as elementary as PUT YOUR KID TO BED BEFORE THEY GET TOO TIRED, make sure they have had enough liquids, don't feed them too much salt or sugar or fat, or watch how they respond to certain foods or atmospheres or routines. Most problems are created because the parents don't pay enough attention to things to solve or prevent problems, especially the moms and the caregivers.