logic1, yes it seems logical that this woman just leave the abusive situation. Easier said than done. Often times women in these situations stay due to low self-esteem and fear. An abuser will use these weaknesses to further control and abuse. Jeff is right, a pro-active family intervention could be this woman's only salvation. It is rather interesting that just within the past few months a woman related a story to me of how she was abused and kept basically under lock and key until her family came to her rescue. Her family pretty much kidnapped her from her home. The tie this woman's abuser had was he was supplying her with drugs. "Be a good girl all week, keep the house clean, the laundry done, and I'll bring you drugs when I'm home on the weekend and let you use my cell to say "hi" to your family, and take you grocery shopping." Sounds like a movie I know, but true. The love of family, rehab, and counseling have brought this woman back to a productive life again. It has been a few years now, yet every day is a struggle. Getting better for her, but still a struggle. What has kept her going is love of family.
I'm not saying that Carchoo51's sister has a drug problem, it is not uncommom for women in abusive situations to have something of the like held over them. Good luck Carchoo51!
<small>[ March 03, 2007, 01:24 PM: Message edited by: Deb Richardson ]</small>
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