Deb Richardson wrote:A bit on the defensive abnerman? I totally understand. It's not easy seeing someone we have looked up to viewed as inadequate by others. That's human nature. Glad you had a good experience in the band program. As a parent it was a frustrating experience. I could give you a laundry list of issues many of us dealt with as parents but as I said in a previous post it's pointless. Enough said on the subject.
Defensive? You said you didn't see how anything in the previous posts were applicable to any of the words that I mentioned to describe them, and I listed the examples that made me say it in the first place.
I don't have a personal stake in defending anyone. If I sound at all like I'm on the defensive as opposed to just sharing my opinion, it's certainly not intentional. It's simply because it's my feeling that what I considered a misrepresentation of someone's character was being portrayed as broad and general fact as an accessory to personal opinion (particularly in the case of saying that someone doesn't care about something that they have devoted their career to, when my own personal observation over the course of 6 years created quite a contrary impression).
I have no doubt that you believe what you are saying, and that your experience has dictated your opinion. I'm not saying you're wrong, and I'm not trying to change your mind. There is nothing wrong with us having and sharing our own opinions, which is simply what I was doing in pointing out that not everyone agrees with that particular personal character assessment.
We're all perfectly entitled to share our opinions, our praise, and our criticism regarding anyone or anything (within reason of course). But with that being said, I don't necessarily need to look up to someone in order to share my opinion with you that I believe it's in poor taste to berate them on the public message board in Tomahawk. Just my own opinion. And once again, I stand by my belief that if you stumbled upon such a thread and for any reason it was about you, your spouse, or someone close to you, you might feel that the adjectives I used earlier were a little more accurate.
The early bird may get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese....